My aunt died last night.

I won’t eulogize her here. Those are words for those who knew her, and those who knew her don’t read this blog. All I’ll say is that I love her, and that I will miss her. I’m grateful that her pain has ended. Grateful that her (grown) children were at her side at the end. Mentally she was up for the fight, but her body was just too tired.

Good bye, Aunt Joan. And thank you.

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  1. I’m sorry to hear about your Aunt. I guess the quickness can be seen as a blessing but it’s still hard to deal with the loss of someone you love.
    Posted by: Liz

  2. I’m sorry to hear about your Aunt. I guess the quickness can be seen as a blessing but it’s still hard to deal with the loss of someone you love.
    Posted by: Liz

  3. I’m sorry for your loss and hope that you will find comfort in knowing that she is at peace.
    Posted by: Carole

  4. I’m sorry about the loss of your aunt. I hope your great memories of her keep her alive in your heart.
    Posted by: Kathode Ray Tube

  5. Warm, soft hugs from across the ocean. You wrote a beautiful post about her and what she meant to you recently – just go be with your family now.
    Posted by: Alison

  6. My favorite role is that of aunt, esp. to an 11-year-old who lives around the corner. Thanks to the older ones, I’m also a great-aunt, now to two, soon to be five. I only hope that I can mean as much to some of them as your aunt did to you. You were both very lucky. My favorite aunt died exactly 20 years ago. My tears are for you as well as her.
    Posted by: Luise

  7. I’m sorry for your loss and hope that you will find comfort in knowing that she is at peace.
    Posted by: Carole

  8. I’m sorry about the loss of your aunt. I hope your great memories of her keep her alive in your heart.
    Posted by: Kathode Ray Tube

  9. Warm, soft hugs from across the ocean. You wrote a beautiful post about her and what she meant to you recently – just go be with your family now.
    Posted by: Alison

  10. My favorite role is that of aunt, esp. to an 11-year-old who lives around the corner. Thanks to the older ones, I’m also a great-aunt, now to two, soon to be five. I only hope that I can mean as much to some of them as your aunt did to you. You were both very lucky. My favorite aunt died exactly 20 years ago. My tears are for you as well as her.
    Posted by: Luise

  11. I’m so sorry to hear about your Aunt, you wrote such a wonderful post about her.
    I hope you fine some comforting thoughts at this hard time.
    x
    Posted by: Kayla

  12. Oh, sweetie. I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. You and your loved ones are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: regina

  13. Hi Cari, I’m so sorry to hear about your aunt. Here is a BIG virtual hug until I can give you one personally… maybe next week.
    Posted by: Tereza

  14. I’m so sorry to hear about your Aunt, you wrote such a wonderful post about her.
    I hope you fine some comforting thoughts at this hard time.
    x
    Posted by: Kayla

  15. Oh, sweetie. I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. You and your loved ones are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: regina

  16. Hi Cari, I’m so sorry to hear about your aunt. Here is a BIG virtual hug until I can give you one personally… maybe next week.
    Posted by: Tereza

  17. Cari, my condolences you and your family. It is good that her children were with her. Sometimes the fight is just too hard, hugs 🙂
    Posted by: rositta

  18. I’m so sorry to hear this news. My sister is fighting breast and bone cancer now, so I understand something about the toll it can take. Having lost a brother to cancer already, I know about feeling gratitude that the pain has ended. Your aunt was well loved, and I know that makes all the difference in the world. My condolences to you and your family.
    Posted by: Tracy

  19. Cari, my condolences you and your family. It is good that her children were with her. Sometimes the fight is just too hard, hugs 🙂
    Posted by: rositta

  20. I’m so sorry to hear this news. My sister is fighting breast and bone cancer now, so I understand something about the toll it can take. Having lost a brother to cancer already, I know about feeling gratitude that the pain has ended. Your aunt was well loved, and I know that makes all the difference in the world. My condolences to you and your family.
    Posted by: Tracy

  21. Cari, my heart goes out to you and your family. You’ve said all you need to here.

    xo
    Posted by: shannon in oregon

  22. I’m sorry, lovey. Thanks for saying as much as you did, and letting us be here for you as much as we can.
    Posted by: Lee Ann

  23. Cari, my heart goes out to you and your family. You’ve said all you need to here.

    xo
    Posted by: shannon in oregon

  24. I’m sorry, lovey. Thanks for saying as much as you did, and letting us be here for you as much as we can.
    Posted by: Lee Ann

  25. I’m so sorry to hear of your aunts passing. Thinking of you and your family at this time.
    Posted by: ginchy

  26. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May your happy memories of your aunt be a balm on your sorrow in this time of grief.

    Peace to you and your family,
    Claudia
    Posted by: Claudia

  27. I’m so sorry to hear of your aunts passing. Thinking of you and your family at this time.
    Posted by: ginchy

  28. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May your happy memories of your aunt be a balm on your sorrow in this time of grief.

    Peace to you and your family,
    Claudia
    Posted by: Claudia

  29. Your life was blessed and by the presence of this special aunt. I feel your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts.
    Posted by: Carmen

  30. I too am sorry for your loss. That happened so quickly….Memories are a wonderful thing. Hold onto them! Always remember the wonderful person she was to you – carry her spirit with you always!
    Posted by: Rebecca

  31. Just wanted to come out and say that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. I am so sorry for your loss.
    Posted by: Heather

  32. Your life was blessed and by the presence of this special aunt. I feel your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts.
    Posted by: Carmen

  33. I too am sorry for your loss. That happened so quickly….Memories are a wonderful thing. Hold onto them! Always remember the wonderful person she was to you – carry her spirit with you always!
    Posted by: Rebecca

  34. Just wanted to come out and say that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. I am so sorry for your loss.
    Posted by: Heather

  35. Cari – I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. Words always seem so inadequate at times like this. When my mom passed away, my friend’s dad, who is Jewish, said a (Hebrew?) word to my father at the wake that summed it up for all of us. I can’t remember the word, but I can remember the sentiment: “We have met in better days.”
    Posted by: Steph VW

  36. Cari – I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. Words always seem so inadequate at times like this. When my mom passed away, my friend’s dad, who is Jewish, said a (Hebrew?) word to my father at the wake that summed it up for all of us. I can’t remember the word, but I can remember the sentiment: “We have met in better days.”
    Posted by: Steph VW

  37. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your Aunt. You and your family will be in my thoughts as you face this hard time. May you find comfort with each other.
    Posted by: Jean

  38. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your Aunt. You and your family will be in my thoughts as you face this hard time. May you find comfort with each other.
    Posted by: Jean

  39. Oh, I’m so sorry! I’m sure you will carry her with you in your heart. Sending you hugs and hopes that you can have some time for healing and celebrating her part in your life.
    Posted by: amber

  40. It’s lovely to have those special people in our lives, and so hard when they go. I’m sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: KathyMarie

  41. Oh, I’m so sorry! I’m sure you will carry her with you in your heart. Sending you hugs and hopes that you can have some time for healing and celebrating her part in your life.
    Posted by: amber

  42. It’s lovely to have those special people in our lives, and so hard when they go. I’m sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: KathyMarie

  43. so sorry for your loss – as someone without children I have always cherished being a “beloved” aunt and your words about her makes me know she was beloved to you.
    Posted by: robin

  44. so sorry for your loss – as someone without children I have always cherished being a “beloved” aunt and your words about her makes me know she was beloved to you.
    Posted by: robin

  45. Oh god, Cari, I’m so sorry. Even in that one little post about her a few weeks back, it was apparent how special she was.
    Posted by: Lizbon

  46. Cari – Up late getting last minute xmas presents, logged on to see what you and the family have been up to. My condolences to you. Keep her memory alive with joy. Best to you.
    Posted by: Anneliese

  47. I’m sorry to hear about your loss – even when we can legitimately say that they’re suffering less now, it still fucking blows. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    lala
    Posted by: lala

  48. Oh god, Cari, I’m so sorry. Even in that one little post about her a few weeks back, it was apparent how special she was.
    Posted by: Lizbon

  49. Cari – Up late getting last minute xmas presents, logged on to see what you and the family have been up to. My condolences to you. Keep her memory alive with joy. Best to you.
    Posted by: Anneliese

  50. I’m sorry to hear about your loss – even when we can legitimately say that they’re suffering less now, it still fucking blows. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    lala
    Posted by: lala

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