Breaking up
Sometimes, relationships just dont work out. Its hard, but its for the best if all involved realize that and move on. Somethings been going on around here for the past ten months that I havent been blogging about. It ended with Sadie moving out today. Shes gone to live a very nice life with Juno.
Before you flame me, let me just say that we agonized for months before coming to this decision, and when we made it it was with Sadies best interests in mind, not ours. I never before understood how someone could give up a beloved pet once a baby came along. I get it now and I regret my lack of empathy in the past.
At first it wasnt working out with Oscar and the baby, but weve taken measures for the cat and its worked, amazingly. Sadly, no measures we took for Sadie were enough.
Sadie was not happy. She needs a lot of attention. A lot. She needs, in fact, to be the center of attention. When Thumper came along, that was simply no longer possible. She needs three walks a day. Understandable. But often, with the baby, the best I could do for the dogs was one walk a day and then letting them out in the backyard as much as they wanted. This is enough for Diego. Its not enough for Sadie. Understandable that she should need to get out on the leash often, but I just couldnt do it. Billy works such long hours that he couldnt do it. We cant afford to hire a dogwalker. It was the backyard plus one afternoon walk or nothing. It was the best we could do.
She was peeing on the bed every day to let us know exactly how she felt. She was growling at the baby. Once she actually snapped at him. She was stressed and miserable, as were we. Then last weekend Juno came over and Sadie fell in love and so did Juno. It just made perfect sense.
Juno came to get our girl today. Theyre trying each other out for a few weeks. I cried when Sadie left, but I know it was the best thing I could do for her. Diego seems oddly fine without her. I hope he stays that way. He was so depressed when Sofia, my first rescue IG, died (before I started the blog). He was asleep when Sadie left. Maybe he just hasnt noticed yet.
Sigh Its going to be quiet around here.
You made the best possible decision for Sadie and for your family. I’m sorry that it had to be made, but you did the right thing.
Posted by: Heather
You *totally* did the right thing for all involved. Everyone will be happier (and safer) in the end. Now you need to cut yourself some slack. 🙂
Posted by: Romi
We had to find a new home for one of our dogs after my daughter was 15 months old. We probably should have done it sooner, but we kept thinking things would change. It just became apparent that this dog wasn’t good with kids, but how could we have known that before kids? Sometimes we are sad that we don’t have her around, but in the end, knew it was for the best.
Posted by: Wendy
aww, {{hugs}} to you. We had to get rid of one of our cats after the Monkey came around…he was hissing and swiping at her. The final straw came when he scratched her across her chubby cheek as he walked by, without being provoked. It’s always sad, but you did the right thing for everyone involved. Sadie deserves to be happy, and to be the center of her own little universe. That’s the joy of being a pup.
Posted by: Sharon G.
I’m glad she had a good home to go to.
Posted by: AlisonH
I’ve been in your shoes, and you did the right thing. I had to find a home for my pup when I was forced to move to a no-dogs-allowed apartment. It was the best thing I could have done for her, she’s miles happier. I miss her terribly, but I know I did right by finding her a new home (and in my case it was a more stable one than what I had given her.)
Posted by: Li
Oh, that’s a hard thing, but there really IS no choice when it comes to that. I hope it works out with Juno and Sadie.
Posted by: Norma
This must have been a truly difficult decision. Sometimes being a grown up just sucks. I hope Sadie and Juno will be very happy together.
Posted by: Carole
I totally feel where you’re coming from– I had to make the same decision between my cat and my newborn son… knowing no one was happy and finally having to find her a home when she scratched him. You made the right decision, and I’m happy Sadie has a good home that will lather on all the attention she needs.
Posted by: aija
I agree with the others.. you did what you thought was right. We had to give our chihuahua to my mother-in-law shortly after our son was born because it didn’t like the baby. She was a very ‘needy’ dog who wanted to be the center of attention and was horribly jealous when the baby arrived.. It broke my heart to let Circe go, but in the end I knew it had to be done for the sake of my son.
I’m glad your dog went to a good and loving home. Don’t be so hard on yourself!
Posted by: Mouse
You did the right thing. I don’t know if you have ever read the book “The Other End of the Leash” by Patricia McConnell (I highly recommend it if you haven’t) but she discusses having to give up a dog when the personalities no longer mesh. She brings up the point that dog packs are generally transitory with young adults moving to other packs. So Sadie will probably settle in with Juno faster than you will get use to her not being around.
It is better to make this decision now before something horrible happens (Thumper getting bit).
Posted by: Teresa
It sounds like a wise decision. Sometimes you just have to let go. I hope everything works out well for Sadie and Juno and that you get to go visit now and again.
Posted by: LaurieM
My heart goes out to you. It’s hard to loose a friend but I know she’ll be happy with Juno and it’s the best possible decision for all involved. We had to get rid of our 1st dog after Caroline became a toddler because he was snapping at young kids that came to visit. Never showed any aggression to us only those visiting but what fun is it if your kids can’t have friends over? A tough decision but one we knew we had to make, anyway, just wanted to let you know I understand and support you!
Posted by: Liz
A friend of mine just adopted her daughter’s dog. The dog was always a barker, but with a new baby, she never stopped. Now, at the grandparents’ house (even with another dog and cat), she is much more content and doesn’t bark at the pre-baby level. It was just the wrong house and attention level for the dog. It’s so great that you were able to find a good home where you know she’ll be happier.
Posted by: Toni K.
That’s such a hard decision to make. We’re still trying to figure things out with our cat, Jasper. You’re so fortunate that Juno and Sadie hit it off! You can feel good knowing that Sadie will be in a happy home.
Posted by: Kristy
You made the best possible decision for Sadie and for your family. I’m sorry that it had to be made, but you did the right thing.
Posted by: Heather
You *totally* did the right thing for all involved. Everyone will be happier (and safer) in the end. Now you need to cut yourself some slack. 🙂
Posted by: Romi
We had to find a new home for one of our dogs after my daughter was 15 months old. We probably should have done it sooner, but we kept thinking things would change. It just became apparent that this dog wasn’t good with kids, but how could we have known that before kids? Sometimes we are sad that we don’t have her around, but in the end, knew it was for the best.
Posted by: Wendy
aww, {{hugs}} to you. We had to get rid of one of our cats after the Monkey came around…he was hissing and swiping at her. The final straw came when he scratched her across her chubby cheek as he walked by, without being provoked. It’s always sad, but you did the right thing for everyone involved. Sadie deserves to be happy, and to be the center of her own little universe. That’s the joy of being a pup.
Posted by: Sharon G.
I’m glad she had a good home to go to.
Posted by: AlisonH
I’ve been in your shoes, and you did the right thing. I had to find a home for my pup when I was forced to move to a no-dogs-allowed apartment. It was the best thing I could have done for her, she’s miles happier. I miss her terribly, but I know I did right by finding her a new home (and in my case it was a more stable one than what I had given her.)
Posted by: Li
Oh, that’s a hard thing, but there really IS no choice when it comes to that. I hope it works out with Juno and Sadie.
Posted by: Norma
This must have been a truly difficult decision. Sometimes being a grown up just sucks. I hope Sadie and Juno will be very happy together.
Posted by: Carole
I totally feel where you’re coming from– I had to make the same decision between my cat and my newborn son… knowing no one was happy and finally having to find her a home when she scratched him. You made the right decision, and I’m happy Sadie has a good home that will lather on all the attention she needs.
Posted by: aija
I agree with the others.. you did what you thought was right. We had to give our chihuahua to my mother-in-law shortly after our son was born because it didn’t like the baby. She was a very ‘needy’ dog who wanted to be the center of attention and was horribly jealous when the baby arrived.. It broke my heart to let Circe go, but in the end I knew it had to be done for the sake of my son.
I’m glad your dog went to a good and loving home. Don’t be so hard on yourself!
Posted by: Mouse
You did the right thing. I don’t know if you have ever read the book “The Other End of the Leash” by Patricia McConnell (I highly recommend it if you haven’t) but she discusses having to give up a dog when the personalities no longer mesh. She brings up the point that dog packs are generally transitory with young adults moving to other packs. So Sadie will probably settle in with Juno faster than you will get use to her not being around.
It is better to make this decision now before something horrible happens (Thumper getting bit).
Posted by: Teresa
It sounds like a wise decision. Sometimes you just have to let go. I hope everything works out well for Sadie and Juno and that you get to go visit now and again.
Posted by: LaurieM
My heart goes out to you. It’s hard to loose a friend but I know she’ll be happy with Juno and it’s the best possible decision for all involved. We had to get rid of our 1st dog after Caroline became a toddler because he was snapping at young kids that came to visit. Never showed any aggression to us only those visiting but what fun is it if your kids can’t have friends over? A tough decision but one we knew we had to make, anyway, just wanted to let you know I understand and support you!
Posted by: Liz
A friend of mine just adopted her daughter’s dog. The dog was always a barker, but with a new baby, she never stopped. Now, at the grandparents’ house (even with another dog and cat), she is much more content and doesn’t bark at the pre-baby level. It was just the wrong house and attention level for the dog. It’s so great that you were able to find a good home where you know she’ll be happier.
Posted by: Toni K.
That’s such a hard decision to make. We’re still trying to figure things out with our cat, Jasper. You’re so fortunate that Juno and Sadie hit it off! You can feel good knowing that Sadie will be in a happy home.
Posted by: Kristy
Wow, growling at Thumper. Not good.
You are lucky to have a good home for Sadie to go. I’m sure she will be thrilled with Juno. Its a really tough decision (been there) and you are doing the right thing for Sadie AND you.
Keep up the good work! Being a Mommie/parent/adult is tough and I don’t think people get told often enough that they are doing a Good Job! And you are!
Posted by: Colleen
You needn’t feel bad about your decision. You placed Sadie in a good home and no one should judge you badly for that decision. You did what you thought best for all members of your family.
–K2Karen
Posted by: K2Karen
I’m so sorry to hear about your hard choice, but the brighter side is that you know who her new owner is, and you know she’ll be well taken care of. You made the best choice for your pet, and she’ll be much happier being the center of attention.
As an aside, I was in a pet store once and they had a little IG in there. Now, I would never buy a puppy at a pet store, but I wondered about this darling little dog, so I asked one of the employees about her. She said IGs are mellow, easy to care for dogs who are happy to be alone all day while their owners work. Then I did research online and found the exact opposite information. Now that I have two rabbits, I’m not in the market for a dog, but I’m curious what your experiences have been with IGs.
Posted by: Marlena
That must have been unbelievably hard. But she’s in a good home, right? You’re so brave.
Posted by: Jenn
It’s so hard. We love every member of our families, but sometimes you need to make decisions that make everyone’s life better.
Posted by: Johanna
Oh, I’m so sorry… But Juno will give her a great home.
I’m glad to hear Oscar is doing OK, though.
Posted by: Anne
I run a rescue for JRTs…it’s really unfortunate that people don’t realize when they get dogs that they are going to need just as much attention AFTER baby as before. At least half our dogs are displaced because people don’t have time to spend with them anymore.
At least you tried to make it work! I’m also impressed that you were able to fit in one walk a day.
You were also extremely responsible in finding Sadie a new home. Most people just dump them at the shelter or pound and that’s the WORST thing to do because the dog is in an extremely stressful situation and they frequently become a totally different dog…and end up not getting adopted or they don’t pass the temperment testing.
You realized she would have been happier in a different situation and you made sure she went to a better situation.
Realize that you aren’t the only person that has been there and you know you really did try to make it work. You did the responsible thing for both Thumper and Sadie. So while you may be sad…you shouldn’t feel guilty.
Amy
Posted by: Amy
You absolutely did the right thing. But it’s still a hard decision to get over. We had to give up one of our doggies a couple of years ago, and it was one of the hardest things I’ve had to do. But she wasn’t getting along with our other dog and was starting to mutilate herself from the anxiety, in addition to the destruction of my knitting and our house. So she went to live with my parents and is now a happy, well-behaved doggy. And I get to see her whenever we visit. And hear her talking over the phone.
At least you know where Sadie’s going, and who’s going to be giving her all that attention she needs. It’s a happy ending for her.
Posted by: Wendie
I can imagine how hard this must be, but I, too, think you’ve done the right thing for everyone. My sister had the same kind of situation with her beloved dog, and luckily my mom was able to take him in. He just died a few months ago, but his last year was very happy – he got lots of attention and love, the company of a younger dog for a playmate, and my mom completely adored him and was very very glad to have him with her. And my sister didn’t have to worry about either her daughter or her dog; she got the peace of mind that comes from knowing all the loved beings in her life were well-cared-for. Yay Juno!
Posted by: Lizbon
As everyone has said, you did the right thing. I got my cat, Stormy, because the family that had found her couldn’t keep her with their child. I feel very lucky to have gotten her, and I’m so glad that family did the right thing instead of trying to make things work until there was a disaster. And, you know exactly where Sadie is going and that she’ll be well cared for and loved – which is a good thing.
Posted by: Shanti
I am so sorry. I know this couldn’t have been an easy decision. I hope that everything works out for you, Sadie, Juno, Thumper, Billie, Diego, and everyone else involved. Best wishes!
Posted by: knittripps
You did exactly the right thing – and what a wonderful new home she has! It is an awful feeling though, we had to give up a beloved cat in the prime of her life for exactly the same reasons.
Posted by: Ruth
Awwww, I’m so sorry you had to make that choice, but I’m sure you’ve done the right thing. At least you know you’ve made at least two creatures happy, if Sadie and Juno share that kind of love-fest.
Posted by: miss ewe
Ow. That’s a hard decision to make. And you know – until you’ve *been* there, it IS really hard to understand. You did exactly what you had to do, and you will ALL be happier for it.
Once you get over the misery. 🙁
Posted by: Mother Chaos
That could not have been easy, but she’s in another loving home.
Posted by: Kathy
My sympathies go out to you. I know it was a hard decision. Just know that you made the right one. *hugs*
Posted by: Maritza
Wow, growling at Thumper. Not good.
You are lucky to have a good home for Sadie to go. I’m sure she will be thrilled with Juno. Its a really tough decision (been there) and you are doing the right thing for Sadie AND you.
Keep up the good work! Being a Mommie/parent/adult is tough and I don’t think people get told often enough that they are doing a Good Job! And you are!
Posted by: Colleen
You needn’t feel bad about your decision. You placed Sadie in a good home and no one should judge you badly for that decision. You did what you thought best for all members of your family.
–K2Karen
Posted by: K2Karen
I’m so sorry to hear about your hard choice, but the brighter side is that you know who her new owner is, and you know she’ll be well taken care of. You made the best choice for your pet, and she’ll be much happier being the center of attention.
As an aside, I was in a pet store once and they had a little IG in there. Now, I would never buy a puppy at a pet store, but I wondered about this darling little dog, so I asked one of the employees about her. She said IGs are mellow, easy to care for dogs who are happy to be alone all day while their owners work. Then I did research online and found the exact opposite information. Now that I have two rabbits, I’m not in the market for a dog, but I’m curious what your experiences have been with IGs.
Posted by: Marlena
That must have been unbelievably hard. But she’s in a good home, right? You’re so brave.
Posted by: Jenn
It’s so hard. We love every member of our families, but sometimes you need to make decisions that make everyone’s life better.
Posted by: Johanna
Oh, I’m so sorry… But Juno will give her a great home.
I’m glad to hear Oscar is doing OK, though.
Posted by: Anne
I run a rescue for JRTs…it’s really unfortunate that people don’t realize when they get dogs that they are going to need just as much attention AFTER baby as before. At least half our dogs are displaced because people don’t have time to spend with them anymore.
At least you tried to make it work! I’m also impressed that you were able to fit in one walk a day.
You were also extremely responsible in finding Sadie a new home. Most people just dump them at the shelter or pound and that’s the WORST thing to do because the dog is in an extremely stressful situation and they frequently become a totally different dog…and end up not getting adopted or they don’t pass the temperment testing.
You realized she would have been happier in a different situation and you made sure she went to a better situation.
Realize that you aren’t the only person that has been there and you know you really did try to make it work. You did the responsible thing for both Thumper and Sadie. So while you may be sad…you shouldn’t feel guilty.
Amy
Posted by: Amy
You absolutely did the right thing. But it’s still a hard decision to get over. We had to give up one of our doggies a couple of years ago, and it was one of the hardest things I’ve had to do. But she wasn’t getting along with our other dog and was starting to mutilate herself from the anxiety, in addition to the destruction of my knitting and our house. So she went to live with my parents and is now a happy, well-behaved doggy. And I get to see her whenever we visit. And hear her talking over the phone.
At least you know where Sadie’s going, and who’s going to be giving her all that attention she needs. It’s a happy ending for her.
Posted by: Wendie
I can imagine how hard this must be, but I, too, think you’ve done the right thing for everyone. My sister had the same kind of situation with her beloved dog, and luckily my mom was able to take him in. He just died a few months ago, but his last year was very happy – he got lots of attention and love, the company of a younger dog for a playmate, and my mom completely adored him and was very very glad to have him with her. And my sister didn’t have to worry about either her daughter or her dog; she got the peace of mind that comes from knowing all the loved beings in her life were well-cared-for. Yay Juno!
Posted by: Lizbon
As everyone has said, you did the right thing. I got my cat, Stormy, because the family that had found her couldn’t keep her with their child. I feel very lucky to have gotten her, and I’m so glad that family did the right thing instead of trying to make things work until there was a disaster. And, you know exactly where Sadie is going and that she’ll be well cared for and loved – which is a good thing.
Posted by: Shanti
I am so sorry. I know this couldn’t have been an easy decision. I hope that everything works out for you, Sadie, Juno, Thumper, Billie, Diego, and everyone else involved. Best wishes!
Posted by: knittripps
You did exactly the right thing – and what a wonderful new home she has! It is an awful feeling though, we had to give up a beloved cat in the prime of her life for exactly the same reasons.
Posted by: Ruth
Awwww, I’m so sorry you had to make that choice, but I’m sure you’ve done the right thing. At least you know you’ve made at least two creatures happy, if Sadie and Juno share that kind of love-fest.
Posted by: miss ewe
Ow. That’s a hard decision to make. And you know – until you’ve *been* there, it IS really hard to understand. You did exactly what you had to do, and you will ALL be happier for it.
Once you get over the misery. 🙁
Posted by: Mother Chaos
That could not have been easy, but she’s in another loving home.
Posted by: Kathy
My sympathies go out to you. I know it was a hard decision. Just know that you made the right one. *hugs*
Posted by: Maritza
As hard as the decision was, it was the right one, both for the humans and for Sadie. And I’m sure she’ll be so happy with Juno, and Juno with her. It’s really a winning situation for all, even if it makes you sad.
Posted by: janna
You’re such a good human and dog mama! {{{hugs}}}
Posted by: Kim
I’m sorry to hear you had to let Sadie go, but you’re right. It’s hard, but it’s for the best. It’s great that you were able to find a home for her though.
Posted by: Kate
Nobody should flame you for this! It was an extremely unfortunate situation and you made the best decision for everyone. I’m so sorry that it couldn’t work for all of you, but you did the right thing.
Posted by: Elizabeth
awww ((hugs for you)) you so did the right thing. It must have been a terribly hard decision for you and yours. I am sure Sadie and Juno will get along famously and bring the best out in each other. I feel so bad for you, but remember, Sadie couldn’t help being a little teeny bit of a handful then what you bargained and well, Juno is probably a bit on the fiery side too *giggle* so they can keep the reigns on each other LOL….hang in there, it will get better!
Posted by: DebbieKnitter
Oh I know just how heartbreaking this will have been for you. I have enormous respect for you to have recognised a real problem and made a warm hearted decision full of love and compassion, and which totally puts the dog’s best interests at heart.
xxx
Posted by: Alison
Sadie (and Juno) will be much happier this way! And you’re keeping your baby safe… Plus, Diego gets more attention in the process. Good luck!
Posted by: Yvette
I’m sure you did the right thing. Everything can’t always stay the same in life & just like in human relationships sometimes things change and an animal just isn’t happy anymore. We went through a similar thing with a dog we had for years. We had her before we had our daughter. She was extremely stressed by the arrival of the baby & then when our daughter started crawling & then walking it only got worse. It ended with our dog nipping our daughter in the face. Luckily there was no damage done. Some animals, just like some people, can’t deal with children. Believe me – you did the right thing by making a decision before something awful happened!
Posted by: stephanie
We had to make the same decision with our dog after our daughter was born – he wasn’t happy, I couldn’t walk him enough etc. I know it’s hard, but you’ve done the right thing and at least you know Sadie has gone to a good home.
Posted by: Mary
Our dog came to us for similar reasons (although the new baby was also extremely allergic) and I can’t imagine how hard it must have been to give her away even though there wasn’t really any alternative for her previous owners. I’m really grateful to them that we got to adopt such a wonderful dog and it has worked out perfectly in her new home. You are lucky to know Sadies new owner and get a chance to meet her still. All the best to all of you!
Posted by: Rippedoffknitter
Who would flame you for finding a problem dog a nice new home? If you’re feeling guilty, just imagine the flaming you’d get if you kept your pet around and it bit your child. Or if you neglected your child to appease your pet. Sadie will be fine, and with one dog, one cat, a baby, a husband, and an impending move, there will be absolutely no quiet. Promise.
Posted by: Marie
*hugs*
It’s not an easy decision, but in the case, you made the right one…
Give it time..
Posted by: Kai
Oh, sweetie. I’m sorry…that’s never an easy decision to make. But the Juno Effect will work its magic, I’m sure.
Posted by: Lee Ann
Oh, I’m so sorry, Cari. It’s so hard to know if we’re doing what’s best for us or what’s best for the pet, but it sounds like you managed to cover both. I hope Sadie and Juno are happy together, and I hope Diego is all right, too.
Posted by: alison
I know what a hard decision that is, we have had to make it. But babies come before pets and you are a very responsible parent to realize that. Thumper is the lucky one!!
Posted by: Sherry
*hug*
Posted by: Lilith Parker
As hard as the decision was, it was the right one, both for the humans and for Sadie. And I’m sure she’ll be so happy with Juno, and Juno with her. It’s really a winning situation for all, even if it makes you sad.
Posted by: janna
You’re such a good human and dog mama! {{{hugs}}}
Posted by: Kim
I’m sorry to hear you had to let Sadie go, but you’re right. It’s hard, but it’s for the best. It’s great that you were able to find a home for her though.
Posted by: Kate
Nobody should flame you for this! It was an extremely unfortunate situation and you made the best decision for everyone. I’m so sorry that it couldn’t work for all of you, but you did the right thing.
Posted by: Elizabeth
awww ((hugs for you)) you so did the right thing. It must have been a terribly hard decision for you and yours. I am sure Sadie and Juno will get along famously and bring the best out in each other. I feel so bad for you, but remember, Sadie couldn’t help being a little teeny bit of a handful then what you bargained and well, Juno is probably a bit on the fiery side too *giggle* so they can keep the reigns on each other LOL….hang in there, it will get better!
Posted by: DebbieKnitter
Oh I know just how heartbreaking this will have been for you. I have enormous respect for you to have recognised a real problem and made a warm hearted decision full of love and compassion, and which totally puts the dog’s best interests at heart.
xxx
Posted by: Alison
Sadie (and Juno) will be much happier this way! And you’re keeping your baby safe… Plus, Diego gets more attention in the process. Good luck!
Posted by: Yvette
I’m sure you did the right thing. Everything can’t always stay the same in life & just like in human relationships sometimes things change and an animal just isn’t happy anymore. We went through a similar thing with a dog we had for years. We had her before we had our daughter. She was extremely stressed by the arrival of the baby & then when our daughter started crawling & then walking it only got worse. It ended with our dog nipping our daughter in the face. Luckily there was no damage done. Some animals, just like some people, can’t deal with children. Believe me – you did the right thing by making a decision before something awful happened!
Posted by: stephanie
We had to make the same decision with our dog after our daughter was born – he wasn’t happy, I couldn’t walk him enough etc. I know it’s hard, but you’ve done the right thing and at least you know Sadie has gone to a good home.
Posted by: Mary
Our dog came to us for similar reasons (although the new baby was also extremely allergic) and I can’t imagine how hard it must have been to give her away even though there wasn’t really any alternative for her previous owners. I’m really grateful to them that we got to adopt such a wonderful dog and it has worked out perfectly in her new home. You are lucky to know Sadies new owner and get a chance to meet her still. All the best to all of you!
Posted by: Rippedoffknitter
Who would flame you for finding a problem dog a nice new home? If you’re feeling guilty, just imagine the flaming you’d get if you kept your pet around and it bit your child. Or if you neglected your child to appease your pet. Sadie will be fine, and with one dog, one cat, a baby, a husband, and an impending move, there will be absolutely no quiet. Promise.
Posted by: Marie
*hugs*
It’s not an easy decision, but in the case, you made the right one…
Give it time..
Posted by: Kai
Oh, sweetie. I’m sorry…that’s never an easy decision to make. But the Juno Effect will work its magic, I’m sure.
Posted by: Lee Ann
Oh, I’m so sorry, Cari. It’s so hard to know if we’re doing what’s best for us or what’s best for the pet, but it sounds like you managed to cover both. I hope Sadie and Juno are happy together, and I hope Diego is all right, too.
Posted by: alison
I know what a hard decision that is, we have had to make it. But babies come before pets and you are a very responsible parent to realize that. Thumper is the lucky one!!
Posted by: Sherry
*hug*
Posted by: Lilith Parker
Oh, I’m sad for you, but you did the right thing. And you know exactly where Sadie is, so you won’t be wondering and worrying about her. Our dog was ambivalent about the baby. When she (the baby) was old enough to start bouncing around in a walker, the dog took a cookie out of her hand and made her cry. We learned where the expression “hangdog” comes from! That dog felt so guilty. He became the baby’s protector, and there were no more problems.
Posted by: Mary K. in Rockport
Dearest, how could there possibly be flames for such a loving, well thought out decision made to ensure the safety and happiness of all involved? Except, unfortunately, you. My heart broke for you as I read this, but you’ve made the right choice. You didn’t give up on Sadie, you gave her a chance to be happy. And you did it for your son’s safety. Nothing is more important that that.
Juno is love personified, with just that right amount of snark to make her truly, truly hot. This is a good thing. Big hugs.
Posted by: Rachel H
It sounds like you totally did the right thing; I give you a lot of credit for making a decision that respects her needs as much as Thumper’s. Remember, Sadie will always be a part of the family; she’ll remember you when you visit with Juno, and even after you move, the magic of digital pictures means she’s never that far away.
Posted by: Donna
Yes, what they said. Sadie is lucky to have had a loving and understanding family like you guys, who will put your feelings aside to make the best decision for her. And she’s lucky to have a great new friend like Juno who can give her a home she’ll be happier in. Don’t feel guilty.
Posted by: jodi
We went through this with one of our cats. No one was happy — not us, not the cat — and not our other cats. It was one of the hardest decisions I ever made, but once it was done things improved *so* much. It was best for everyone involved. So while this is really difficult — I know you’ll feel better about it after the initial sadness starts to fade.
Posted by: Julie
Oh, Cari. I can only imagine how hard it was for you to come to this decision, but as so many people before me said, it was the right decision for your family, and you really can’t go wrong with Juno, who is beyond wonderful.
When Noah was born we had to find a new home for one of our cats, who took to peeing all over the baby’s stuff (crib, porta-crib, blankets, stroller). It was unreal. I tried everything, but it just didn’t get any better, so off he went and he’s much happier now.
I hope you’re not too sad. Diego will be ok. He has Oscar and Thumper to play with (not to mention the best dog mama around).
Posted by: regina
Doing the right thing is sometimes so very painful. You are such a wonderful person and mother and knowing your pup went to someone who can heap on her ooddles of love is just the best.
You have so much going on right now; my heart goes out to you.
Posted by: delia
Oh man, that’s tough. I’m so sorry. But Juno’s a great girl and I can see Sadie being very happy with her.
Hugs and skritches to everyone involved.
Posted by: David
oh — what a hard decision to make — i think you made the best one possible though. it’s best for both you and Sadie…
Posted by: megan
Girl, the fact that you found a loving home for her speaks volumes about your commitment to her and her happiness. You can’t keep a snapping dog around a baby. Sadie will be happy and the center of attention, Thumper will be safe, and you’ll have yet another reason to get back and visit Juno. 😀
Posted by: Carrie
Ugh, I gave up a beloved pug once and it was literally one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. We had to keep him in a cage for most of the day and I came home once to find that he had peed in the cage. I finally decided it just wasn’t fair and found a good home. It’s great that you’ll be able to check in on your girl, though. Thoughts are with you and Diego.
Posted by: cirilia
The sadness in this post is tangible. I feel for you, but clearly you did the right thing. And frankly, I’d like Juno to adopt me, too.
Posted by: Michelle
I think it sounds like Sadie made a major score! She gets to live with Juno and get lots and lots of love. It’s a win win for the both of you.
Posted by: Rebecca
If only everyone were as caring and responsible as you, dogs — and kids — would be much better off! Being a good pet owner (and parent!) sometimes means having to make difficult decisions, and yours was absolutely the right one. You took the time and made the effort to find a situation in which everyone wins, especially Sadie. That’s love.
Posted by: Sarah
Just another of the dozens who think you did the right thing and want to let you know that. I’ve worked in Cat Rescue quite a bit and if more people were like you there would be less for rescue people to deal with (in a good way).
Posted by: Sara
I am sending a big hug to you from Chicago. I had to relocate my two beloved kitties when my husband and I moved on together, prior to the marriage. I was on Xanax for months and, two years later, I’m still missing them dearly. But I found them wonderful homes where they are thriving, and I send pet store gift cards to their foster mamas to help with their keep. It’s the best we can all do, honey. And yes, being a grown up SUCKS!!!!!
Posted by: Chaeriste
Oh, I’m sad for you, but you did the right thing. And you know exactly where Sadie is, so you won’t be wondering and worrying about her. Our dog was ambivalent about the baby. When she (the baby) was old enough to start bouncing around in a walker, the dog took a cookie out of her hand and made her cry. We learned where the expression “hangdog” comes from! That dog felt so guilty. He became the baby’s protector, and there were no more problems.
Posted by: Mary K. in Rockport
Dearest, how could there possibly be flames for such a loving, well thought out decision made to ensure the safety and happiness of all involved? Except, unfortunately, you. My heart broke for you as I read this, but you’ve made the right choice. You didn’t give up on Sadie, you gave her a chance to be happy. And you did it for your son’s safety. Nothing is more important that that.
Juno is love personified, with just that right amount of snark to make her truly, truly hot. This is a good thing. Big hugs.
Posted by: Rachel H
It sounds like you totally did the right thing; I give you a lot of credit for making a decision that respects her needs as much as Thumper’s. Remember, Sadie will always be a part of the family; she’ll remember you when you visit with Juno, and even after you move, the magic of digital pictures means she’s never that far away.
Posted by: Donna
Yes, what they said. Sadie is lucky to have had a loving and understanding family like you guys, who will put your feelings aside to make the best decision for her. And she’s lucky to have a great new friend like Juno who can give her a home she’ll be happier in. Don’t feel guilty.
Posted by: jodi
We went through this with one of our cats. No one was happy — not us, not the cat — and not our other cats. It was one of the hardest decisions I ever made, but once it was done things improved *so* much. It was best for everyone involved. So while this is really difficult — I know you’ll feel better about it after the initial sadness starts to fade.
Posted by: Julie
Oh, Cari. I can only imagine how hard it was for you to come to this decision, but as so many people before me said, it was the right decision for your family, and you really can’t go wrong with Juno, who is beyond wonderful.
When Noah was born we had to find a new home for one of our cats, who took to peeing all over the baby’s stuff (crib, porta-crib, blankets, stroller). It was unreal. I tried everything, but it just didn’t get any better, so off he went and he’s much happier now.
I hope you’re not too sad. Diego will be ok. He has Oscar and Thumper to play with (not to mention the best dog mama around).
Posted by: regina
Doing the right thing is sometimes so very painful. You are such a wonderful person and mother and knowing your pup went to someone who can heap on her ooddles of love is just the best.
You have so much going on right now; my heart goes out to you.
Posted by: delia
Oh man, that’s tough. I’m so sorry. But Juno’s a great girl and I can see Sadie being very happy with her.
Hugs and skritches to everyone involved.
Posted by: David
oh — what a hard decision to make — i think you made the best one possible though. it’s best for both you and Sadie…
Posted by: megan
Girl, the fact that you found a loving home for her speaks volumes about your commitment to her and her happiness. You can’t keep a snapping dog around a baby. Sadie will be happy and the center of attention, Thumper will be safe, and you’ll have yet another reason to get back and visit Juno. 😀
Posted by: Carrie
Ugh, I gave up a beloved pug once and it was literally one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. We had to keep him in a cage for most of the day and I came home once to find that he had peed in the cage. I finally decided it just wasn’t fair and found a good home. It’s great that you’ll be able to check in on your girl, though. Thoughts are with you and Diego.
Posted by: cirilia
The sadness in this post is tangible. I feel for you, but clearly you did the right thing. And frankly, I’d like Juno to adopt me, too.
Posted by: Michelle
I think it sounds like Sadie made a major score! She gets to live with Juno and get lots and lots of love. It’s a win win for the both of you.
Posted by: Rebecca
If only everyone were as caring and responsible as you, dogs — and kids — would be much better off! Being a good pet owner (and parent!) sometimes means having to make difficult decisions, and yours was absolutely the right one. You took the time and made the effort to find a situation in which everyone wins, especially Sadie. That’s love.
Posted by: Sarah
Just another of the dozens who think you did the right thing and want to let you know that. I’ve worked in Cat Rescue quite a bit and if more people were like you there would be less for rescue people to deal with (in a good way).
Posted by: Sara
I am sending a big hug to you from Chicago. I had to relocate my two beloved kitties when my husband and I moved on together, prior to the marriage. I was on Xanax for months and, two years later, I’m still missing them dearly. But I found them wonderful homes where they are thriving, and I send pet store gift cards to their foster mamas to help with their keep. It’s the best we can all do, honey. And yes, being a grown up SUCKS!!!!!
Posted by: Chaeriste
De-lurking after a while to say:
That’s a really, really tough decision, but it sounds like it will be the best for everyone involved. I knew someone who had to put their beloved beagle to sleep when the baby arrived – he had always been a one person dog, and not terribly nice to anyone else, but when the baby came, he got violent. They couldn’t find anyone to take him, and they couldn’t keep him anymore. It was really quite awful.
Best of luck to Sadie on her new adventure.
Posted by: jessie
I am so sorry you had to send your dog to live with someone else, I know how hard that is to do. I’ll be thinking happy thoughts for you and Sadie.
Posted by: kniternet
oh, Cari, I’m so sorry. You did make the right ecision, but I know it’s so hard. I’m glad you were able to find her a great home. Hang in there!
Posted by: Carrie
Oh I can imagine how hard that must have been for you. I really hope it works up with Sadie and Juno.
Posted by: Karen
Um works out, not up!
Posted by: Karen
OH no! I hope Sadie will be happier in her new home. We got a companion dog for Deedle a year ago, and they hated each other! Deedle aged before our eyes. It was really difficult, but we had to rehome the new dog. I think both are better off now. You made the right decision. I’m sorry I won’t get to meet Sadie, but I am looking forward to meeting Diego! Hang in there, Cari.
Posted by: Mariko
I think it sounds like you acted out of love. Sometimes doing the right thing isn’t easy but Sadie is lucky to have been with you and now she is lucky to be with Juno. You did good Cari.
Posted by: Laurie
I cried when I read of your decision – only because I know your pain. If we had to find new forever homes for either of our rescued racing greyhounds, we’d be a mess. You made the right decision for everyone. Now if I can just get our girl hound to stop seeing yarn as something to attack! Hugs to all.
Posted by: Diana
Aw, I’m so sorry. You made the right decision for all involved, but that doesn’t make it an easy one.
Posted by: Ruth
Hey, give yourself a break, you did the only thing you could do at the time, I’ve been there and I know it’s hard, but you have your child’s safety to think of, not to mention the sanity of self and the happiness of the dog. Once they start sending you messages the way she was doing the best thing is to find her a new home. All will be happier in the end. Go have a cup of tea, take a deep breath, then play with your baby and relax. You did the right thing.
Posted by: Joy Wandrey
Hell, *I* want to go live with Juno. 🙂
What a hard choice. Good for you for doing what you felt was best for the doggie.
Posted by: claudia
I have lurked but now must comment- I had to do the exact thing TWICE- once with each baby. When the first baby came along, our dachsund started biting anyone that came in the door and tried to jump into the basinet. He also growled and snapped at Luc. It was heartbreaking to give him up.
We had a whippet when son number 2 came. He was OK with the baby, but same as your Sadie, he just needed more attention than we could give him. We found our breeder and she took him in until a nice family adopted him.
Now I have a beautiful dachsund girl and no more plans for babies!!! She is here to stay!
I totally understand your pain. But it will get better, and you know you did the right thing for Sadie. So be at peace.
Posted by: patti
I’m writing you from Italy. After reading about your rescue dogs I did a lot of research work and with the help of GACI group we adopted Mindy, an irish greyhound that was bound to die. We (our family with two young boys and another adopted dog) have to thank you for this, so, please, don’t you feel so miserable about Sadie. You’ve helped her and – at least – another one. Just remember this. Ciao from Eva
Posted by: eva
Oh, don’t worry about being “flamed”. It was a win, win, win situation! It was hard, yes, but in the end it was for the best. My sister had to bring her cats back to the farm she got them from when my niece was born. The cats were outdoor cats and were bringing home all sorts of “goodies”. The female cat, Lily, was a very good huntress. It worked out for the best, even though my sister misses her cats dearly.
Posted by: Michelle
I am so, so sorry to hear. One of our cats started biting Jacob within two months of him being home, unprovoked. We had to make a similar decision, and I know how heart-wrenching and difficult it is.
I *do* take comfort knowing that our cats are happier than we could ever make them, and I hope it works out that way for you too.
Posted by: Amy
Aw, that’s tough to go through! IGs are so sweet and lovely, so for Sadie to be miserable isn’t good. Juno is the best girl ever, so you found a good home for Miss Sadie.
Posted by: Silvia
De-lurking after a while to say:
That’s a really, really tough decision, but it sounds like it will be the best for everyone involved. I knew someone who had to put their beloved beagle to sleep when the baby arrived – he had always been a one person dog, and not terribly nice to anyone else, but when the baby came, he got violent. They couldn’t find anyone to take him, and they couldn’t keep him anymore. It was really quite awful.
Best of luck to Sadie on her new adventure.
Posted by: jessie
I am so sorry you had to send your dog to live with someone else, I know how hard that is to do. I’ll be thinking happy thoughts for you and Sadie.
Posted by: kniternet
oh, Cari, I’m so sorry. You did make the right ecision, but I know it’s so hard. I’m glad you were able to find her a great home. Hang in there!
Posted by: Carrie
Oh I can imagine how hard that must have been for you. I really hope it works up with Sadie and Juno.
Posted by: Karen
Um works out, not up!
Posted by: Karen
OH no! I hope Sadie will be happier in her new home. We got a companion dog for Deedle a year ago, and they hated each other! Deedle aged before our eyes. It was really difficult, but we had to rehome the new dog. I think both are better off now. You made the right decision. I’m sorry I won’t get to meet Sadie, but I am looking forward to meeting Diego! Hang in there, Cari.
Posted by: Mariko
I think it sounds like you acted out of love. Sometimes doing the right thing isn’t easy but Sadie is lucky to have been with you and now she is lucky to be with Juno. You did good Cari.
Posted by: Laurie
I cried when I read of your decision – only because I know your pain. If we had to find new forever homes for either of our rescued racing greyhounds, we’d be a mess. You made the right decision for everyone. Now if I can just get our girl hound to stop seeing yarn as something to attack! Hugs to all.
Posted by: Diana
Aw, I’m so sorry. You made the right decision for all involved, but that doesn’t make it an easy one.
Posted by: Ruth
Hey, give yourself a break, you did the only thing you could do at the time, I’ve been there and I know it’s hard, but you have your child’s safety to think of, not to mention the sanity of self and the happiness of the dog. Once they start sending you messages the way she was doing the best thing is to find her a new home. All will be happier in the end. Go have a cup of tea, take a deep breath, then play with your baby and relax. You did the right thing.
Posted by: Joy Wandrey
Hell, *I* want to go live with Juno. 🙂
What a hard choice. Good for you for doing what you felt was best for the doggie.
Posted by: claudia
I have lurked but now must comment- I had to do the exact thing TWICE- once with each baby. When the first baby came along, our dachsund started biting anyone that came in the door and tried to jump into the basinet. He also growled and snapped at Luc. It was heartbreaking to give him up.
We had a whippet when son number 2 came. He was OK with the baby, but same as your Sadie, he just needed more attention than we could give him. We found our breeder and she took him in until a nice family adopted him.
Now I have a beautiful dachsund girl and no more plans for babies!!! She is here to stay!
I totally understand your pain. But it will get better, and you know you did the right thing for Sadie. So be at peace.
Posted by: patti
I’m writing you from Italy. After reading about your rescue dogs I did a lot of research work and with the help of GACI group we adopted Mindy, an irish greyhound that was bound to die. We (our family with two young boys and another adopted dog) have to thank you for this, so, please, don’t you feel so miserable about Sadie. You’ve helped her and – at least – another one. Just remember this. Ciao from Eva
Posted by: eva
Oh, don’t worry about being “flamed”. It was a win, win, win situation! It was hard, yes, but in the end it was for the best. My sister had to bring her cats back to the farm she got them from when my niece was born. The cats were outdoor cats and were bringing home all sorts of “goodies”. The female cat, Lily, was a very good huntress. It worked out for the best, even though my sister misses her cats dearly.
Posted by: Michelle
I am so, so sorry to hear. One of our cats started biting Jacob within two months of him being home, unprovoked. We had to make a similar decision, and I know how heart-wrenching and difficult it is.
I *do* take comfort knowing that our cats are happier than we could ever make them, and I hope it works out that way for you too.
Posted by: Amy
Aw, that’s tough to go through! IGs are so sweet and lovely, so for Sadie to be miserable isn’t good. Juno is the best girl ever, so you found a good home for Miss Sadie.
Posted by: Silvia
I’m so sorry. That must have been so tough for you. It sounds like Sofia is going to be quite content with her new home. I hope Diego stays OK with it too.
Posted by: JessZ
That’s awful. I can only imagine how you must have agonized over this. But it sounds like Sadie really will be happier with Juno now. Abandoning a dog is flame-worthy. Ensuring your dog will have a great life with someone else is responsible and caring.
Posted by: Frith
I’m so sorry to hear of your dog. My family is going through a
similar situation right now. My parents have to get rid of the dog
that we’ve had for almost 8 years because he has become very
unpredictable and they are afraid he might really hurt someone. We’re
looking into Rescues, but he has a bit of a past and so far they don’t
want him. It’s a difficult time. We don’t want to put him down, and
we don’t want to give him away, but it seems like the only option. I
never understood anyone that gave up pets before, but now I understand
that sometimes there is no alternative. You have to do what is best for you and your family, and we do too.
I wish you all the best with your remaining dog, cat, and Thumper. I
hope the move goes smoothly.
Best,
Becca in Chicago
Posted by: Becca
You -so- did the right thing! How wonderful that there was a home for her to go to! I once had to make a euthenasia appointment for one of my cats that couldn’t move into my ‘no pets’ apartment. It was the worst thing ever! Good news that I found him a really good home at the last possible minute. Hugs to you!
Oh, and now Diego can have the girls all to himself!
Posted by: Ande
I feel your pain! We had to give away our beloved cat durring my second pregnancy. After my first pregnancy I developed severe allergies & asthma and the medications I had to be on were not good for the babies or me during the second pregnancy. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do.
It sounds like Sadie has gone to a loving home.
Posted by: Kirsten
That is such a difficult, heart wrenching decision, and I admire the way you’ve handled it. You’ve considered the happiness and safety of your family and I’m sure you will all be more at peace for it.
Posted by: chris
It’s so hard when your pets are your kids until you have kids. You did the right thing.
And good luck with the move! I am very excited for you. Never been to Portland, but it seems terrific!
— Allison in Philly
Posted by: Allison
I’m so sorry. We’ve been concerned about our cat and how he’ll react when the baby comes. I’ve already agonized over it, and I can’t imagine how hard it is to be faced with the real decision. I’m glad you could send her to a happy home.
Posted by: Susan
Wow. There’s not much I can say that wasn’t already said, is there. Good for you for making a difficult choice. And it seems the universe was looking out for you, since it set up such a nice solution. Michelle is on to something. I’d like Juno to adopt me too!
Posted by: Cassie
I’m so sorry. That must have been so tough for you. It sounds like Sofia is going to be quite content with her new home. I hope Diego stays OK with it too.
Posted by: JessZ
That’s awful. I can only imagine how you must have agonized over this. But it sounds like Sadie really will be happier with Juno now. Abandoning a dog is flame-worthy. Ensuring your dog will have a great life with someone else is responsible and caring.
Posted by: Frith
I’m so sorry to hear of your dog. My family is going through a
similar situation right now. My parents have to get rid of the dog
that we’ve had for almost 8 years because he has become very
unpredictable and they are afraid he might really hurt someone. We’re
looking into Rescues, but he has a bit of a past and so far they don’t
want him. It’s a difficult time. We don’t want to put him down, and
we don’t want to give him away, but it seems like the only option. I
never understood anyone that gave up pets before, but now I understand
that sometimes there is no alternative. You have to do what is best for you and your family, and we do too.
I wish you all the best with your remaining dog, cat, and Thumper. I
hope the move goes smoothly.
Best,
Becca in Chicago
Posted by: Becca
You -so- did the right thing! How wonderful that there was a home for her to go to! I once had to make a euthenasia appointment for one of my cats that couldn’t move into my ‘no pets’ apartment. It was the worst thing ever! Good news that I found him a really good home at the last possible minute. Hugs to you!
Oh, and now Diego can have the girls all to himself!
Posted by: Ande
I feel your pain! We had to give away our beloved cat durring my second pregnancy. After my first pregnancy I developed severe allergies & asthma and the medications I had to be on were not good for the babies or me during the second pregnancy. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do.
It sounds like Sadie has gone to a loving home.
Posted by: Kirsten
That is such a difficult, heart wrenching decision, and I admire the way you’ve handled it. You’ve considered the happiness and safety of your family and I’m sure you will all be more at peace for it.
Posted by: chris
It’s so hard when your pets are your kids until you have kids. You did the right thing.
And good luck with the move! I am very excited for you. Never been to Portland, but it seems terrific!
— Allison in Philly
Posted by: Allison
I’m so sorry. We’ve been concerned about our cat and how he’ll react when the baby comes. I’ve already agonized over it, and I can’t imagine how hard it is to be faced with the real decision. I’m glad you could send her to a happy home.
Posted by: Susan
Wow. There’s not much I can say that wasn’t already said, is there. Good for you for making a difficult choice. And it seems the universe was looking out for you, since it set up such a nice solution. Michelle is on to something. I’d like Juno to adopt me too!
Posted by: Cassie