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My aunt died last night.

I won’t eulogize her here. Those are words for those who knew her, and those who knew her don’t read this blog. All I’ll say is that I love her, and that I will miss her. I’m grateful that her pain has ended. Grateful that her (grown) children were at her side at the end. Mentally she was up for the fight, but her body was just too tired.

Good bye, Aunt Joan. And thank you.

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  1. I’m sorry to hear about your Aunt. I guess the quickness can be seen as a blessing but it’s still hard to deal with the loss of someone you love.
    Posted by: Liz

  2. I’m sorry to hear about your Aunt. I guess the quickness can be seen as a blessing but it’s still hard to deal with the loss of someone you love.
    Posted by: Liz

  3. I’m sorry for your loss and hope that you will find comfort in knowing that she is at peace.
    Posted by: Carole

  4. I’m sorry about the loss of your aunt. I hope your great memories of her keep her alive in your heart.
    Posted by: Kathode Ray Tube

  6. Warm, soft hugs from across the ocean. You wrote a beautiful post about her and what she meant to you recently – just go be with your family now.
    Posted by: Alison

  7. My favorite role is that of aunt, esp. to an 11-year-old who lives around the corner. Thanks to the older ones, I’m also a great-aunt, now to two, soon to be five. I only hope that I can mean as much to some of them as your aunt did to you. You were both very lucky. My favorite aunt died exactly 20 years ago. My tears are for you as well as her.
    Posted by: Luise

  9. I’m sorry for your loss and hope that you will find comfort in knowing that she is at peace.
    Posted by: Carole

  10. I’m sorry about the loss of your aunt. I hope your great memories of her keep her alive in your heart.
    Posted by: Kathode Ray Tube

  12. Warm, soft hugs from across the ocean. You wrote a beautiful post about her and what she meant to you recently – just go be with your family now.
    Posted by: Alison

  13. My favorite role is that of aunt, esp. to an 11-year-old who lives around the corner. Thanks to the older ones, I’m also a great-aunt, now to two, soon to be five. I only hope that I can mean as much to some of them as your aunt did to you. You were both very lucky. My favorite aunt died exactly 20 years ago. My tears are for you as well as her.
    Posted by: Luise

  15. I’m so sorry to hear about your Aunt, you wrote such a wonderful post about her.
    I hope you fine some comforting thoughts at this hard time.
    x
    Posted by: Kayla

  18. Oh, sweetie. I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. You and your loved ones are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: regina

  19. I’m so sorry, Cari. You and your family are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: Carrie

  20. Hi Cari, I’m so sorry to hear about your aunt. Here is a BIG virtual hug until I can give you one personally… maybe next week.
    Posted by: Tereza

  21. I’m so sorry to hear about your Aunt, you wrote such a wonderful post about her.
    I hope you fine some comforting thoughts at this hard time.
    x
    Posted by: Kayla

  24. Oh, sweetie. I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. You and your loved ones are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: regina

  25. I’m so sorry, Cari. You and your family are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: Carrie

  26. Hi Cari, I’m so sorry to hear about your aunt. Here is a BIG virtual hug until I can give you one personally… maybe next week.
    Posted by: Tereza

  29. Cari, my condolences you and your family. It is good that her children were with her. Sometimes the fight is just too hard, hugs 🙂
    Posted by: rositta

  31. I’m so sorry to hear this news. My sister is fighting breast and bone cancer now, so I understand something about the toll it can take. Having lost a brother to cancer already, I know about feeling gratitude that the pain has ended. Your aunt was well loved, and I know that makes all the difference in the world. My condolences to you and your family.
    Posted by: Tracy

  35. Cari, my condolences you and your family. It is good that her children were with her. Sometimes the fight is just too hard, hugs 🙂
    Posted by: rositta

  37. I’m so sorry to hear this news. My sister is fighting breast and bone cancer now, so I understand something about the toll it can take. Having lost a brother to cancer already, I know about feeling gratitude that the pain has ended. Your aunt was well loved, and I know that makes all the difference in the world. My condolences to you and your family.
    Posted by: Tracy

  43. Cari, my heart goes out to you and your family. You’ve said all you need to here.

    xo
    Posted by: shannon in oregon

  44. I’m sorry, lovey. Thanks for saying as much as you did, and letting us be here for you as much as we can.
    Posted by: Lee Ann

  49. Cari, my heart goes out to you and your family. You’ve said all you need to here.

    xo
    Posted by: shannon in oregon

  50. I’m sorry, lovey. Thanks for saying as much as you did, and letting us be here for you as much as we can.
    Posted by: Lee Ann

  53. So sorry for your loss and wishing you peace. M thoughts are with you…
    Posted by: Kim

  59. So sorry for your loss and wishing you peace. M thoughts are with you…
    Posted by: Kim

  65. My condolences to you and your family, Cari. That’s very sad.
    Posted by: marrije

  66. I’m so sorry to hear of your aunts passing. Thinking of you and your family at this time.
    Posted by: ginchy

  68. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May your happy memories of your aunt be a balm on your sorrow in this time of grief.

    Peace to you and your family,
    Claudia
    Posted by: Claudia

  71. My condolences to you and your family, Cari. That’s very sad.
    Posted by: marrije

  72. I’m so sorry to hear of your aunts passing. Thinking of you and your family at this time.
    Posted by: ginchy

  74. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May your happy memories of your aunt be a balm on your sorrow in this time of grief.

    Peace to you and your family,
    Claudia
    Posted by: Claudia

  77. Your life was blessed and by the presence of this special aunt. I feel your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts.
    Posted by: Carmen

  78. I too am sorry for your loss. That happened so quickly….Memories are a wonderful thing. Hold onto them! Always remember the wonderful person she was to you – carry her spirit with you always!
    Posted by: Rebecca

  79. So sorry to hear of your loss. I will say a prayer for your family.
    Posted by: Anna

  80. Cari, I’m so sorry. Wishing you and your family peace and strength.
    Posted by: Sarah R

  81. Just wanted to come out and say that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. I am so sorry for your loss.
    Posted by: Heather

  84. Your life was blessed and by the presence of this special aunt. I feel your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts.
    Posted by: Carmen

  85. I too am sorry for your loss. That happened so quickly….Memories are a wonderful thing. Hold onto them! Always remember the wonderful person she was to you – carry her spirit with you always!
    Posted by: Rebecca

  86. So sorry to hear of your loss. I will say a prayer for your family.
    Posted by: Anna

  87. Cari, I’m so sorry. Wishing you and your family peace and strength.
    Posted by: Sarah R

  88. Just wanted to come out and say that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. I am so sorry for your loss.
    Posted by: Heather

  89. Cari – I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. Words always seem so inadequate at times like this. When my mom passed away, my friend’s dad, who is Jewish, said a (Hebrew?) word to my father at the wake that summed it up for all of us. I can’t remember the word, but I can remember the sentiment: “We have met in better days.”
    Posted by: Steph VW

  94. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you here in Wisconsin.
    Posted by: Muriel

  95. Cari – I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. Words always seem so inadequate at times like this. When my mom passed away, my friend’s dad, who is Jewish, said a (Hebrew?) word to my father at the wake that summed it up for all of us. I can’t remember the word, but I can remember the sentiment: “We have met in better days.”
    Posted by: Steph VW

  100. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you here in Wisconsin.
    Posted by: Muriel

  103. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your Aunt. You and your family will be in my thoughts as you face this hard time. May you find comfort with each other.
    Posted by: Jean

  105. Oh no, I’m so sorry to read that. I hope you’ll be doing okay soon.
    Posted by: rach

  109. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your Aunt. You and your family will be in my thoughts as you face this hard time. May you find comfort with each other.
    Posted by: Jean

  111. Oh no, I’m so sorry to read that. I hope you’ll be doing okay soon.
    Posted by: rach

  116. Oh, I’m so sorry! I’m sure you will carry her with you in your heart. Sending you hugs and hopes that you can have some time for healing and celebrating her part in your life.
    Posted by: amber

  117. It’s lovely to have those special people in our lives, and so hard when they go. I’m sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: KathyMarie

  122. Oh, I’m so sorry! I’m sure you will carry her with you in your heart. Sending you hugs and hopes that you can have some time for healing and celebrating her part in your life.
    Posted by: amber

  123. It’s lovely to have those special people in our lives, and so hard when they go. I’m sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.
    Posted by: KathyMarie

  125. so sorry for your loss – as someone without children I have always cherished being a “beloved” aunt and your words about her makes me know she was beloved to you.
    Posted by: robin

  127. My sincere condolences to you and your family.
    Posted by: Lynn in Tucson

  128. I am so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Posted by: aleakamh

  131. so sorry for your loss – as someone without children I have always cherished being a “beloved” aunt and your words about her makes me know she was beloved to you.
    Posted by: robin

  133. My sincere condolences to you and your family.
    Posted by: Lynn in Tucson

  134. I am so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Posted by: aleakamh

  138. Oh god, Cari, I’m so sorry. Even in that one little post about her a few weeks back, it was apparent how special she was.
    Posted by: Lizbon

  139. Cari – Up late getting last minute xmas presents, logged on to see what you and the family have been up to. My condolences to you. Keep her memory alive with joy. Best to you.
    Posted by: Anneliese

  140. I’m sorry to hear about your loss – even when we can legitimately say that they’re suffering less now, it still fucking blows. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    lala
    Posted by: lala

  142. Oh god, Cari, I’m so sorry. Even in that one little post about her a few weeks back, it was apparent how special she was.
    Posted by: Lizbon

  143. Cari – Up late getting last minute xmas presents, logged on to see what you and the family have been up to. My condolences to you. Keep her memory alive with joy. Best to you.
    Posted by: Anneliese

  144. I’m sorry to hear about your loss – even when we can legitimately say that they’re suffering less now, it still fucking blows. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    lala
    Posted by: lala